So you wanna text your Ex tonight? Stop right there.
It’s Friday night, you’re single as hell, and probably doom-scrolling through Twitter, Insta, or TikTok watching all those cute couple videos. Date night ideas are flying around and you’re like, ugh, I want that. Then suddenly, that one person pops into your head. Yep, your Ex.
Maybe you’re like me and haven’t even had a proper date yet, so seeing people (even younger than you!) living their best couple life makes you think of the one person you’d love to experience it with. Next thing you know, you’re stalking your Ex’s Instagram, checking if they’re still single, and convincing yourself it’s harmless. Spoiler: it’s not. Before you even think of sliding into their DMs, ask yourself these questions first:
1. WHY DID WE BREAK UP?
I promise this would probably even stop you entirely without you even needing to ask yourself the rest of the questions. Obviously, there had to be some good reason y’all cut ties. Did they cheat? Lie? Lost trust in them? Fall out of love? Maybe they didn’t have enough drive in life? Just something. Your reason for ending things with them, especially if valid, is your reason for not texting them this night. Now if they were the ones to end things, well have a bit if pride would ya?! DON’T GO BACK!
2. AM I BORED OR DO I ACTUALLY GENUINELY MISS THEM?
Okay now this question, is very important. I mean every question is important but this particular one would help you put things in perspective. You’re going through instagram and maybe things are triggering your memories. You suddenly remember the good times y’all had and then you think you miss them. You don’t have anybody to talk to after a long day so you remember how it was talking to them at the end of the day. Beautiful right? Well, NO! Pick up a book, listen to music, watch a movie. I promise that lonely feeling will pass. Just DON’T GO BACK! It’s not worth it!!!!!! 😭😭. Trust me please.
3.WOULD I BE OKAY IF THEY DON’T TEXT BACK?
Think about it. You text them now, they don’t reply. They even post on their status or whatever, they are very much online, but they never reply. How would that make you feel? Would that wreck you and make you feel embarrassed? Well what does that tell you? Don’t text them right? Exactly! DON’T FUCKING DO IT! But if they don’t reply and it doesn’t make you feel any type of way, well then STILL DON’T. Because let’s be honest, if they don’t text back and you don’t feel any type of way, it means they were never worth it in the first place and you’ve only made them feel more important than they actually are. So again, DON’T!
4. CLOSURE OR REOPENING AN OLD WOUND?
You think you want closure? Nahhh, what you really want is drama. Closure isn’t hiding in their DMs, it’s already in your head. Sit down, remember why y’all broke up, and actually be honest with yourself. Talk it out with a bestie if you must. Because let’s be real, “I just want closure” is usually code for “I’m about to reopen a wound that’s barely healed.” Don’t play yourself. The short and spicy truth? DON’T. TEXT. THEM. Tonight or ever.
5. IF THIS WERE YOUR BEST FRIEND, WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE?
Finalky, we tend to always have opinions about other people’s relationships so now put yourself in another person’s shoes. If it was your bestie that was in the same situation that you’re in right now, what would you tell them? Would you chastise them for even considering going back? Well then, chastise yourself too. Would you encourage them? Well then… NO! Don’t do it! I’m begging youuuuu! Don’t message that ex. Do NOT DO IT! It will not be fun or worht it. Have faith in me! I have experienced this which is why i’m saying all this now.
If after answering these questions you still want to text them, well… don’t say i didn’t warn you. And if you don’t text them, well congratulations. You just saved yourself from a recycled heartbreak.
Hey hey, before you go, when you text that person, come and confes your sins okay? https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdtqZZcUeqqpHgZm1SIt65YihoSIV8aiIQ9uLnEJWHAo5Z65Q/viewform?usp=header
Read how this person found herself being invited to her “maybe-lover’s” wedding: CONFESSION 2: The time I found out he was marrying someone else – My Love Matters
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